Thursday, October 11, 2012

Change


'Little one' started his new school this week.... and has experienced a great life lesson in 'change'. He has embraced it all, with gusto. It's been so wonderful to watch him blossom over only a few days. He's been positively joyous at school pick up, rattling off all the happenings amongst his new class and new friends. His smile is as wide as it's ever been. Breathe out!

"Twenty kids sat with me at lunch today"
"We're allowed to play before school!!!!"
"A girl asked me what my favourite colour is" (first experience with co-ed!)
"The girls sit around and divide their hair into 3 strands and put it all together" (has never seen a plait before!)
"4B are really upset that they didn't get me"
"The teacher doesn't yell or scream AT ALL and the kids are REALLY good in class...she just looks at them, like this, if they are being a bit too rowdy and they all get really quiet and sit up straight, she doesn't have to scream at all" (the screaming really got to him last time)
"I think I am a celebrity as everyone wants to play with me"
"We're all allowed to get a snack at 10, to eat at our desk, so we don't faint before morning tea!!" (he didn't cope well with the 6.30am-11.00am gap between meals)
"I like learning more I think, it's more fun"
"Had Japanese today. They are way more ahead of us. I didn't understand a thing.... but it's good"
"I asked some boys to stop blocking the slippery slide and they said, 'sure'... they're so polite"
"Everyone is calm, the whole school feels really calm"
"The Principal plays soccer with us at lunch time"
"They have a school disco!!!!!... AND a fete!!!!"
"You were right Mum, it feels like I have been here forever now"

'Mouths of babes'. You can't get better than that. I am taking ALL the credit for finding the school. It was all me! #pattingselfonback

The #mylifeinthecar situation is going to be a challenge over the next 8 weeks while I have 2 boys at different schools, on the opposite sides of town, but I'll drive/wait for/ do anything just to have happy boys. Things will settle down again next year when big son starts his IB Senior School in the same suburb as little one's school next year (he got in!... passed the 5 hour exam and the interview... the stress of it all...it was a long wait to find out)....then we'll move house to be closer to the schools.

It's all happening. Change. It's good.


As I said to my youngest, on his first day at school on Monday, "son, that's one thing that is guaranteed in life... 'change'.... get used to it... embrace it".

He was so brave on his first day. He dug deep.  He embraced it.

So damn proud.

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37 comments:

  1. When I moved my son from a miserable school to a calm one his whole demeanour changed - he even walked differently, I was so ashamed that I hadn't known how stoical he was being.

    I love it that your boy admires his new teacher's old fish eye!

    Japanese tapes for your new, long drive?

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    1. Oh the shame is big Tricia. I am so angry at myself. I put it off for way too long, minimising the seriousness of it all. He is different already. I laughed when he mentioned, 'the look'... love a teacher who has mastered 'the look'. Language lessons, what a great idea! A-M xx

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  2. Love that you and your boys are doing so good, we just had our big change, moving to Dubai, so reading this made me smile, seeing your child happy in a new school is truly heart lifting.
    Maureen

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  3. You must be so pleased. It's funny that some schools don't suit some children. It's good that you found somewhere that will allow your son to be a child as he grows and learns. He'll just thrive if he's in an environment that he's happy with. xx

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  4. Yay - so good to hear he is so happy. I'm all for co-ed when they are young - they thrive on it. He'll flourish in such a clam, happy place. And don't feel guilty or shame - learning to tough things out is all part of life too - and while it may be hard at the time it makes us all stronger. 2013 is looking like a very good year for you all?!!!!!

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  5. That is wonderful to hear for you all ! We may have to change our kids schools next year & it is tearing me apart , as we love their school. But just maybe after reading your post it will all be ok. Thankyou A- M for sharing.
    Karyn x

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    1. It will be ok Karyn. We don't know what's good for us. xx

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  6. change is good, I embrace it now too. Sometimes you need a shake up to do it but then you see why all the "crap" happened for a reason.
    hugs to you :)
    Alicia

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  7. This brought on tears to me. I love boys. How sweet are his first observations of girls in school. If sweet boys were better accommodated for their gentle natures, rather than having that sweetness bullied, bashed and striped from them in most schools by the rougher kids, wouldn't the world be a better place?

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  8. So glad to hear LO is having a good week. Onwards and upwards!

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  9. So glad that he has settled in so well!

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  10. A-M your little boy is just gorgeous. It's remarkable how resilient children can be when faced with a challenge, like a new school. I can tell you are very proud of him and so you should be. As for the driving around, well it's only for a short time and it sounds like it is wroth the effort on your part. Have a lovely day xT

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  11. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. He is adorable!!! So glad he is enjoying it <3

    "Had Japanese today. They are way more ahead of us. I didn't understand a thing.... but it's good"

    "We're all allowed to get a snack at 10, to eat at our desk, so we don't faint before morning tea!!"

    B

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  12. Out of the mouth of babes indeed! What a great kid you have there A-M. I'm so glad for you that it is working out this way. Thanks for your wise counsel yesterday too! Vx

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  13. I reckon one of the most important things we can teach our children is resiliance. And change forces that! Such big life lessons. Well done X E

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  14. What wonderful, positive news A-M! He was indeed brave and I'm so glad that he has settled so well and quickly. I think if a child feels welcomed and accepted in a school environment the education thing just happens. Easily. Well done for following your heart on this decision; pat on back well deserved! x KL

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  15. so pleased it's all worked out. it sounds exactly the same as the school my kids go to. just lovely.
    take care
    Fiona xx

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  16. That's so great AM ... I personally still struggle with change, it's scary and I will go out of my way to avoid it, although I do get to a point when I put my big girl panties on, hold my breath and take that horrible step forward so im not a total wimp.

    Anyways as usual I digress ... Way to go getting him to look forward to it so early, you sound like a great mum and your kids are so lucky to have you there to help them see the positive in these difficult moments.

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  17. Love it! Best decision ever, to change. I'm sure the kids feel like he is a breath of fresh air too.

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  18. I have been following your posts off and on, since I built my new home 4yrs. ago. It has been a heart tugging wonderful ride. My children are grown now, but I too moved my children to different schools to fit them, and I an glad of it. Not everyone is able to do that, but for those of us who have that choice, it is well worth the extra mile. Best wishes!

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  19. Change can be very positive for the soul A-M, especially when there is a very supportive and loving mother behind it. Don't be too hard on yourself for not acting on the school situation earlier. You've now done it and it sounds like your boy is already benifiting.
    "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" (Maria Robinson)
    x

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  20. Change can be very positive for the soul A-M, especially when there is a very supportive and loving mother behind it. Don't be too hard on yourself for not acting on the school situation earlier. You've now done it and it sounds like your boy is already benifiting.
    "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" (Maria Robinson)
    x

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  21. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hug, Well done you! and little one. My heart is happy for you both and my eyes are all watery!

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  22. Thats fantastic AM, I changed my son to a new school this year as well & got exactly the same response( he is also in yr4) The thing that made me laugh most of all was when he stated "All the girls at this school want to go out with me mum, its kinda cool!" Now he is happy & calm & very keen to learn. Im wrapped!!
    You must be so proud of your boys, they sound like a joy to be around!!!

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  23. I have learnt that change actually means growth. Standing still means going backwards.You have done the best thing for your son. He will now be able to embrace a new beginning happily. Giulia. X

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  24. So pleased your little one is in a school more suited to him :) I have never understand single sex schools. If schooling is supposed to prepares you for life...how can it do that in that in an all girls or all boys environment? Without girls to balance them boys can be brutal and without the balance of boys around, girls can be super bitchy. He is in a much healthier environment.

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  25. Sounds like he is such a gorgeous boy and you are such a gorgeous Mum A-M. I have had the pleasure of being in your company a few times now and I love your positive vibrancy and very passionate nature. So refreshing! Well done A-M! xx

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  26. Absolutely thrilled for you! What hell must he have been going through? Kids just can't learn unless they are relaxed and happy and don't have to worry! Very little gets absorbed when there's other 'stuff' going on in their heads!

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    1. Thank you Jodie. I think he is ready to learn now! xx

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  27. Those comments kill me. Im an empty nester, and this really brings back the days when they first went to school. I remember my son came home crying in kindergarten and said he couldn't read. I told him that's why he was going to school! but there were already some children that could read, and he felt stupid.. Brought me to tears.
    Have a great day.
    Nancy
    Powellbrowerhome.com

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    1. Oh that's priceless! He couldn't read! xx

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